This is a discussion I never want to have but always end up having to have because of the constant idiocy I find in the field. I’ve been very fortunate to not have had too much trouble myself, but perhaps I’ve been successful in navigating social waters and as a result the men often see me as “one of the guys.” That in turn results in them showing me their ugly sides without “meaning” to do so (hence my <object>ification blues song from SXSW).

I don’t know the solution, but I sure can smell the problem. And it isn’t going to get better if we don’t open our mouths and (reaching for a diplomatic word here) CLARIFY for our male colleagues what truths they’re missing when they do just that.

The other thing is, we can’t hold ourselves back and while I’ve never been a parent, it occurs to me that women are often the primary caregiver to children. Why does this poor behavior exists? And it is behavior because if it were nature ALL men would be prejudiced and thank god there are many who are wonderful colleagues, friends and partners and do not participate in this sort of nonsense.